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Gender & Sexual Diversity

Jay Philip Paul


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Jay Philip
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With all clients my concern is that you have a safe place to work on your issues and move ahead with your life. If you are seeking counseling or therapy, that generally means that you have come to a point of needing to try something different to resolve personal difficulties. I can offer my experience in assisting you with your own process of discovery, emotional deepening, and defining of potential solutions.

With individual clients, I encourage you to explore your personal patterns and situations, with the aim of better understanding these patterns. I provide you an opportunity to learn to become more compassionate with yourself and others in your life, to communicate your needs and desires more effectively, to grow as an individual, and to achieve your personal goals. I have helped clients face, challenge and heal from experiences that seem overwhelming, intrusive and constricting their current life potential.

My practice also involves working with couples on relationship issues. I draw upon several sources for my work with couples, based upon trainings at The Couples Institute, with Dan Wile, and at The Gottman Institute. The Gottman Institute model begins with an assessment of the strengths and deficits in the couple relationship, providing a strategic perspective on the work we do. This then helps in defining the methods we use to strengthen your relationship and work through the problems that brought you to counseling. The Couples Institute model emphasizes specific developmental challenges that relationships face, and enabling communication skills that can lead to partners feeling understood, valued, loved and better able to work as a team.

I have had a private psychotherapy practice since 1983 working with individuals, groups, and couples. I did my undergraduate work at Harvard, and my Masters and PhD in Clinical Psychology at UC Berkeley (where my dissertation explored experiences of those growing up with an LGB parent). In addition, I have worked for 20 years at UCSF in HIV prevention, and published a variety of professional articles and book chapters. I have also been elected a Fellow in Division 44 of the American Psychological Association (Society for the Psychology of Sexual Orientation and Gender Diversity).
Currently accepting new clients?

Telehealth (for Referral/Org. members only)

Telehealth: primary state

Main Office

Work phone
Office #1: Address
109 Scott St.
Office #1: City
San Francisco
Office #1: State
Office #1: Zip
Office #1: Disability access?
Office hours
Mondays through Fridays; evening hours available Mondays through Thursdays
Office directions
Scott Street near Waller

Demographic info (optional).

  • he/him/his
  • Male
  • White/Euro American
  • Jewish

Credentials (required)

Prof. degree
  • PhD
Prof. degree concentration
  • Clinical Psych.
Year degree obtained
Educational institution
UC Berkeley
License type
  • LMFT
Year originally licensed
License number
LMFT 17995
License expiration date
August 31, 2024

Background and practice info

Theoretical approaches to my work
  • Client Centered / Person-Centered
  • Cognitive Behavioral
  • Psychodynamic
  • Relational
  • Self Psychology
Clinical specializations
  • Abuse/IPV: Male Survivors
  • ACA / Codependence
  • Addiction / Substance Use
  • Aging / Geriatrics
  • Aging Parents
  • Anxiety Disorders
  • Artists / Creativity
  • Bisexual Issues
  • Career / Vocation
  • Coming Out
  • Couples / Relationships
  • Depression
  • Disability / Chronic Illness
  • Discrimination / Stigmatization
  • Families: Alternative
  • Grief / Loss / Dying
  • HIV and AIDS
  • Midlife Issues
  • Personality Disorders
  • Polyamory / Non-Monogamy
  • Pre-Marital Counseling
  • Self Esteem
  • Sexual Addiction
  • Sexual Performance or Dysfunction
  • Sexuality
  • Stress / Burnout
Types of therapy
  • Brief (Time-Limited) Therapy
  • Consultation
  • Counseling
  • Couples / Relationship / Marriage Therapy or Counseling
  • Distance Therapy (Phone or Internet-based)
  • Family Therapy
  • Individual Therapy
  • Long-Term Therapy
Languages (used in therapy)
  • English
Client ages
  • Adults
Sliding scale
Low fee
Insurance info
I do not accept insurance; however I will provide billing statements for clients seeking reimbursement from their insurance provider.
Available 24 hrs?